🌀️ Kindness and Calm

😑 Don’t Let Your Hates Define You πŸ˜‘

I used to have a friend, and I knew a lot about this friend. I knew everything she disliked. I knew every complaint she had. I knew what bugged her, her pet peeves, what really got under her skin.

And not much more.

No matter how much we hung out, I couldn’t tease out of her what exactly she enjoyed. What did she like? What was her favorite hobby? I knew she didn’t like today’s music… but what music did she like??

We didn’t stay friends for very long. After a while, I realized that I didn’t know her. I realized that hanging out felt more like a therapist session– a hard one, and with no pay.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of letting our hates define us for two reasons: 1. We all have difficulties in life, so there’s always something to talk about. 2. It feels good to vent.

But if venting is all you’re doing, you are being a burden to your friends, your loved ones… anyone that comes across your path.

Who are you? Can you answer this question without being negative?

Yari πŸ™…β€β™€οΈ

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